The other day I had the privilege to meet up with one of my Primary School friends again after 17 years. What an awesome experience! We talked about the “old days” and old friends, places, teachers… We caught up with each other and talked about life nowadays, what we do, and how we do it.
I realised that we were both happy with our lives, we both enjoy our lives – what we do and how we do it – but her life won’t work for me and my life won’t work for her. And it’s okay like that.
She is a very busy, single business woman who doesn’t even want to have a pot plant, dog or lease agreement of more than 6 months because it’s too much commitment – WHAT IF she wants to move away or change direction or go on holiday or gets tired of her house or car? ….for a moment it seemed like fun to me, until I thought about my life.
I have a husband, daughter, son on the way, house, car, business, contracts, pot plants (…ok, I must admit, it’s only two of them and it’s succulents – vetplantjies – and only requires water about once in two weeks… I think/hope – and my office assistant Jane makes sure that they stay alive), fixed appointments, a scheduled routine – and I love it!
I’m sure I would hyperventilate if I had to live her life and vice-versa, but the beauty of this is that we are both happy with what we have 🙂 – we wouldn’t want it any other way.
I do sometimes wonder how life would be the way she lives it, and I’m sure she also thinks about how life would be the way I live it, but I’m sure that we are all better off living our own lives – our own ways!
Can’t imagine mine without all my special, loving, sometimes challenging but always worth it commitments 🙂